The holidays are just around the corner and emotions are running high. For so many people there are mixed feelings: excitement but also stress. One of the biggest stressors for parents (and grandparents and other caregivers) and children is how to reach an agreement for parenting time during the holidays.
When families break up, there are almost always feelings of loss. The first year or two of shared parenting time may be hard. With the help of a trained mediator, parents can set aside hard feelings that interfere with healthy communication and find healthy resolutions for the sake of the children.
When I mediate holiday parenting time disputes, I guide parents and caregivers to:
- Set aside differences and put the children’s best interests first
- Remember that children love both parents and should not be made to feel guilty for doing so
- Consider the wishes of children, but do it in a way so that the child is not put in the middle
- Make a plan that is appropriate for the age of the child
- If there are several children, consider their individual needs
- Come up with a plan that considers the cultures and traditions of each family
- Remember that children are interested in quality time, not having the exact same amount of time, with each parent.
If you should need someone to facilitate a healthy conversation on a difficult topic call Mary at 970-498- 8809.